Unless you, either by chance or design, found your kinky love match early on, it’s not uncommon for couples to discover this difference years later into the relationship. It makes sense when you think about it. It can be scary to reveal our authentic sexual selves to another person, even when we are relatively sure that that person cares about us. It feels like a risk. And it takes courage. But luckily for you, I have learned a lot from my clients about how to deal with this – what works and what doesn’t. So, struggle no more my friends.

A miscarriage is the loss of your hopes & dreams; a vision of what the rest of your life would look like. It’s the loss of innocence, particularly for those younger women who may never have experienced a loss before. It’s also an existential type of loss – the loss of the illusion of how the world “should” be, how our female bodies “should” work, your life’s purpose.

Stan and Ruby are a working-class black couple with two young children – one of whom has a chronic illness. The stressors in their lives are significant– financial, health, racism, work, but they are fortunate to have friends, church and community to which they belong. And while their family or marriage is not the focus of the show, their relationship stands out in almost every episode as one to be admired and celebrated. Here’s why:

I get a lot of inquiries from men of all ages who have sexual performance problems, erection problems topping the list.  Many of these men have not consulted a doctor because they believe it must be “mental” (and perhaps they also don’t’ like going to doctors or taking medication). So, I’m often their first phone call, and that makes me happy. I think Sex Therapists are the best place to begin, even if we end up recommending that you consult with a Urologist, too. 

Let’s face it, if you identify as female in this culture, you have likely struggled with negative thoughts and feelings about your body. No surprise there. Maybe you tend to focus on a particular body part that you don’t like, or maybe it’s thoughts about your size or shape or any number of perceived flaws that consume you.